Our Destiny and Daddies

Sick, horrified, disgusted, and worried are just some of the words that describe how I felt when an innocent search through the student portal of the Utah Online Library database pulled up graphic porn in a resource that was supposed to be for children about daddies. The resource said that daddies were adult men who engage in sexual relationships with children of either sex. My stomach churned as I wondered, “How are people allowing the destruction of the destiny of real daddies and the abuse of children like this?” I refuse to use such an endearing term as “daddy” to describe pedophiles on websites that exploit children. Daddies have great destinies that impact us all. 

Destiny means, “State or condition appointed or predetermined; ultimate fate.” (Webster’s 1828 Dictionary) What is the destiny of a daddy? A daddy’s destiny is to provide for his family and protect them. That may sound too simplistic, or like something mommy could do too, but she can’t; at least not like a good daddy does it. I’m not endorsing stereotypes. Anyone can mow a lawn or cook a meal. Roles/destinies are so much more than task lists. 

The primary role and destiny of mother is to nurture. This may seem insignificant to some women, but her role is so significant that she’s irreplaceable. Mothers weave the moral fabric for society and lead each of us toward purposeful living through skill and heart training. Or, they don’t. Either way, they’re nurturing us all. Where do we end up without rock solid nurturing in our lives? The destiny of mothers is important, but often grossly under-appreciated, even by women themselves. What many mommies might not realize is that, without daddies, their destinies of nurturing their children’s hearts is not as effective. The destinies of mommies and daddies are intertwined. 

What does it really mean to provide and protect? I recently  spoke with a father who cares for the children at home while his wife makes the money for the family. He said, “I’ve come to understand that providing for my children doesn’t necessarily mean making money.” He’s right. And protecting the family doesn’t necessarily mean having big muscles and using weapons to stop bad guys either, even though historically daddies usually are the best prepared to fight off bad guys because they often learn about weapons and have big muscles. 

To provide means to do work or plan ahead of time for a future need. When I plant seeds in my garden, I’m providing for future nourishment needs. When I read books, I’m providing for the future teaching of my children. What does a daddy provide? What is more attractive than looks or money to a mommy? Security. When a daddy, who is usually the biggest and strongest, says something will be okay, everyone believes him. Daddies don’t allow themselves to worry too much. They keep pushing forward with faith that they can conquer the next hardship. This mental preparation makes them great leaders. Daddies also provide by preparing their hearts and characters to sacrifice, learn, have duty, be reverent and humble, show love and understanding, teach truth, impart wisdom, work hard, be loyal, be honest, and so much more. Yes, there is something about a strong man providing/preparing themselves to give their all for their families that no one else can ever adequately substitute for. The security from a really good daddy is felt for generations. 

To protect is “to cover,” or to put himself between the family and the threats against the family. There are many ways daddies can choose to do this. How does a daddy cover his family from these threats? 

1. Social, Political, or Familial war –  By making home a moral, peaceful, and strong place.

2. Sin – By eradicating sin within himself, seeking spiritual strength, and praying over his family regularly.

3. Famine or hardship –  He teaches the family, by example, the life skills and adaptability needed to live providently and wisely so that future needs can easily be met.

4. Manipulation and broken family bonds –  By taking the time to master his tongue, soften his impulses, and seek to understand his family members, he gently leads them toward peace. 

This list is just a beginning of how protector-daddies cover us. 

Since the destinies of mothers and fathers are intertwined, mommies also have an important part to play in protecting the family. If daddy is providing/preparing himself the way he should, then mommy trusts daddy, and allows him to cover the family. A man who masters himself earns the trust and respect of his wife. She endorses and appreciates daddy’s protection so that he knows his protection has been done right and is accepted. This moral influence upon daddy’s destiny, the destiny of herself, and the destiny of her children, is how mommy nurtures. And, daddy protects mommy, because to him, she embodies all that is right, good, and true; not because she demands special treatment. Daddies and mommies are constantly feeding the destinies/roles of each other. 

The destinies of mommies and daddies create functional, intact families, which are the families who weather the storms of life best. According to the Marri Research Institute, (who specializes in social science studies related to families), children who come from intact families have greater psychological stability, have better health and later deaths, earn higher grades, have higher high school graduation and college attendance rates, are less likely to behave disruptively or aggressively in classes, do their homework more, have more positive attitudes, and experience less abuse.    

Every family is different, and despite their best efforts, many families may not be intact any longer. The negative effects of this disruption in families is best countered by the attachment and help of loving extended family members or close friends. 

When daddies desire to live their destinies to provide for and protect their families, everyone is improved. Children see the need to turn their hearts toward goodness and strong character development, just like mom has been teaching them to do, when they see mommy’s heart turn toward daddy’s character/providing and protection. If daddy is the living example of mommy’s teachings, then the children believe the lessons are true. Children will turn out to be as virtuous as their fathers show them they should be. And fathers will be as virtuous as mothers teach/nurture them to be, so long as daddies stay teachable. Daddy’s destiny links to the destiny of us all.  

Let’s stop promoting so many lies about daddies. It hurts everyone. Daddies aren’t sex objects who prey on the smaller and younger. Daddies aren’t buffoons who have to be controlled by mommies. Daddies have power. Lots of power. So do mommies of course, but that is an article for another day. Happy Father’s Day!  

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UK Voted To Legalize Taking Family Members and Property

The following act recently passed in UK legalizes the following:

  • A Justice of the Peace [henceforth JP] or other person deemed fit by the Local Authority has the power to remove a person, child or possession if they are believed to have been contaminated, had contact with a contaminated person or are at risk of contamination. There is no conclusive test available for Covid-19 because the virus itself has never been isolated. The person, once under the order of the Local Authority, no longer has their Common Law rights under Habeus Corpus. They can be detained for an indefinite period in a State facility and forced to undergo training sessions.
  • A “thing”, as it is written in the Law, can be seized, destroyed, decontaminated or retained by the State for an indefinite period. Please note the vague terminology. This could relate to a house, car, cash, pets, heirlooms, land – anything which is deemed to have been in contact with a source of contamination or suspected contamination.
  • A child can be taken into the custody of the Local Authority and forcibly removed, treated or detained.
  • It should also be noted that medical practitioners, Social Care Workers (who are not qualified Social Workers but any person who has been deemed fit by the local authority) have legal indemnity for their actions and cannot be sued or prosecuted for misdiagnosis, maltreatment or any other action as listed in the Act above.

45 G

  • (1) a-d: A JP has the power to determine whether or not a person is, may be, has been infected, or if they pose a threat because they may have associated with an infected person. The Act does not require a medical diagnosis by a qualified medical practitioner.
  • (2) a-k: Having determined the above, the JP can compel the person to submit to medical examination, be detained in a hospital or other suitable establishment (not specified), wear protective clothing, attend “training or advice” sessions, cease work, employment or trading and answer questions regarding their whereabouts and associates. Note that the person is to be detained and not arrested, therefore they do not have their Common Law rights whilst under arrest.
  • (3) a-d: The JP may make this order if the person is contaminated, has been contaminated, may have contaminated others or may pose a threat of contamination to others.
  • (4) The person can be compelled to reveal information about themselves or a related party.
  • (6) c: A person with parental responsibility can be compelled to submit their child to any of the above and may not refuse treatment.

45 H

  • (1) a-d: As above a JP has the power to determine whether or not a person is, may be, has been infected, or if they pose a threat because they may have associated with an infected person. The Act does not require a medical diagnosis by a qualified medical practitioner.
  • (2) a-e: A JP can seize the property (written into the Law as “thing”) of any person who meets the above criteria and order that it be confiscated, removed, decontaminated or destroyed.
  • (4) a-b: They may also require that a person who has had contact with the thing answer questions regarding the identity of anyone who may have had contact with it.”